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Get to know what is making headlines all over the country from the covers of The Nation, The Punch, The Guardian, Business Day and Vanguard.

For today, August 10 2016:

THE GUARDIAN NEWSPAPER

South West PDP rejects zoning of chairman position to Lagos

Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) leadership in the South West yesterday rejected the Monday’s zoning of the chairman position of the party to Lagos State by some PDP Governors and leaders of the party.

Army hunts for killers of soldiers in Bayelsa

A manhunt has begun for militants who killed three soldiers attached to the Operation Delta Safe in Bayelsa State on Monday, according to the Nigerian Army. READ MORE

Osinbajo sustains conversation on reparation for slavery

Vice President Yemi Osinbajo said yesterday that issues relating to reparations for slavery can only be delayed and not denied.

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THE VANGUARD NEWSPAPER

Budget Padding: EFCC grills Jibrin for seven hours

ABUJA — The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, yesterday, commenced a formal probe into alleged padding of the 2016 federal budget, with the former chairman of the House of Representatives Committee on Appropriation, Abdulmumin Jibrin  being grilled for seven hours. READ MORE

Anti-graft war: NPCC to take over prosecution of ex-govs

ABUJA —The Federal Government has given the National Prosecution Coordination Committee, NPCC, the nod to take over the trial of high profile public officers, especially former governors, alleged to have looted their state treasuries

CBN sets new limit for sale of foreign exchange cash to BDC

LAGOS — The Central Bank of Nigeria, CBN, yesterday, set a new limit  of $30, 000.00 per week for the sale of foreign exchange cash from the Authorised Dealers, ADs  to  Bureaux de Change, BDCs, just as the Naira depreciated to N350 per dollar.

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THE PUNCH NEWSPAPER

Town hall drama: Nigerians tackle Buhari’s ministers

Nigerians on Tuesday tackled members of President Muhammadu Buhari’s cabinet about poverty and rot in the country at a dramatic town hall meeting in Abuja.

Jonathan using Avengers to destabilise Buhari govt — MEND

The Movement for the Emancipation of the Niger Delta says it has been vindicated by the Reformed Niger Delta Avengers’ allegation that former President Goodluck Jonathan is a grand patron of new militant group, the Niger Delta Avengers.

Presidency backs Dogara, says budget not padded

The Presidency on Tuesday said the  2016 budget, which President Muhammadu Buhari signed into law, was not padded. READ MORE

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THE NATION NEWSPAPER

Budget padding: EFCC writes Clerk, Perm Sec

The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) has written the National Assembly Clerk, Mohammed Sani Omolori, and the Permanent Secretary, Ministry of Budget and National Planning over the budget padding scandal, it was learnt yesterday.

Lagos to seize properties used by kidnappers

THE Lagos State Government yesterday warned that it will not hesitate to confiscate houses and hotels used as hideouts for kidnapping and other criminal activities.

Troops swoop on creeks for soldiers’ killers

The military swung into action yesterday, combing some creeks and waterways in Bayelsa State for the militants who killed three soldiers at a checkpoint near Nembe Jetty on Monday.

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BUSINESSDAY NEWSPAPER

CBN tightens noose on its lending window

The Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) yesterday barred all authorised dealers from accessing its discount window standing lending facility (SFL) on the settlement date for government securities' auction, in a renewed effort at monitoring and managing banking system liquidity.

Recession creates opportunities to formalise export, mining sectors

The economic recession currently besetting Nigeria provides big opportunities to formalise the export and solid minerals sectors an enable them serve as engines of growth rebound, experts say.

Experts see devaluation gains on Eurobond auction

The timing of Nigeria's record Eurobond auction, coinciding with a recent devaluation of the nation's currency may be an auspicious time to rake in more money into the economy, experts say.

For Men Only!

In every society, there are the boys and there are the men and certain behavior traits separate the boys from the men. Thus, here are four behaviors that any mature man would have:

Clean clothes:

This may sound silly and obviously but there is a league of men who don’t care about their appearance. They just tend to wake up and go about their day. There should be no stains or holes or creases on your clothes.

Being polite:

There is nothing like a polite man. When it comes to making and cancelling plans, it is better to do it over the phone and never by text or social media messaging or any other way. For that personal touch. 

Chores:

A handyman is a purposeful man. A man who isn’t too egotistical to get down and dirty and take care of his surroundings is a hardworking guy who doesn’t need anyone to make things happen for him.

Goals:

A man without goals can never be a serious man. It doesn’t matter whether or not you have achieved all the goals you set out to achieve at the beginning of the year but what counts is that you are actively working toward achieving them.

Ladies Only- 5 things you should never tell your partner's Mom

Mother-in-laws can be unbearable but you, as the wife of her son should try not to tell her the meanest things like...

It's preferable to be respectful to the woman who raised your man but you should also find a way of limiting her influence in your home.

Having your mother-in-law active in your husband's life can sometimes be a big problem. Some women have admitted to me that they wished their partner's moms were dead. Others even say they wouldn't want to marry a guy whose mother is still alive. It's almost like, the fear of your mother-in-law is the beginning of wisdom. But whatever the case may be, she's alive and involved in your marriage. So, to keep things sane and happy, here are five things you should never say to your mother-in-law.

1.) "Don't ever come to my house again":

Most mother-in-laws hate these words with passion. They hate when the wives give them ultimatum not to see their sons whenever they want to. They feel it's their right to know everything about their sons' lives but don't want you to have same right.

2.) "You are a bad mother":

No mother wants to be labelled as a bad mom, not even yourself. Yes, she could be problematic but does that make her a bad mother? The truth is she raised the "good" guy you are now dating or married to. She'll think you are rude, ungrateful and disrespectful. This could be detrimental to your relationship.

3.) "Stay away from my husband":

These words will hurt any mother. Your husband is her son no matter how you want to look at it. So show the woman some respect already! Some mothers are mean, even to their own children but don't be the one to tell her that. Let her son do it. She's been in her son's life like forever so asking her to stay away from the man she raised is unreasonable.

4.) "You didn't raise your son any better":

Any mother hates when her ability to be a good mother is called to question by anyone especially her daughter-in-law. She knows how she raised her boy, and if the son isn’t complaining, you shouldn't!

5.) "You're a witch":

This is very offensive to African mothers. To prove someone is involved in witchcraft is almost impossible except you are a strong man of God or involved in Spiritism. if you are not into any of these, then you may have no right to call someone - certainly not your mother-in-law - a witch. Instead, go down on your knees and pray!

ADVISE: Allow your husband or boyfriend handle his mother if she's becoming too unbearable

Becoming The Best Wedding Planner

7 tips on how to be the best

 Planning a wedding takes time and every planning is stressful. so what does it take to be the best wedding planner? Here are tips below

Wedding planners are slowly but surely becoming popular in the Nigerian wedding culture as well as to the rest of the world. Their relevance has also become the focal point to almost every big or small wedding. Without them, a wedding could go totally wrong leaving the bride, groom or hosts embarrassed and ashamed.
Planning a wedding takes time and every planning is stressful. However, wedding planning doesn't come without so much fun. So here are ways to become a great wedding planner.

 

1.) You need to have a passion

Having a strong or deep passion for organizing events and most especially weddings, begins your journey to becoming a great wedding planner. Seyi Olusanya, CEO of Once Upon a Destination, says "you need to love putting an event in order… making sure resources and time are managed properly to suit a concept and a venue." A wedding planner loves to make things happen, give people a great time with the resources s/he has.

2.) You should have a taste for style

A wedding planner is supposed to know and understand the use of style, designs and colors. Putting a wedding together entails good coloring and lighting. What color should be used for the internal décor of the hall, what color of cutleries, table clothes, balloons etc?  How would the invitation cards look like? 

3.) You should be keen to details

Every wedding planner has to pay attention to details. Taking care of the little things such as the guest list,  weather report, feeding the DJ etc are very important to making a great wedding. Make sure time is respected to the teeth, food is brought on time, time for event is repeatedly announced, checking with the bride is constant and so on. Failing to notice the little insignificant things could ruin an entire wedding.

4.) You need to be patient/ enduring

A wedding planner has to be professional at all times. Your job is not over until the wedding ends. You are not supposed to get angry at your client or yell at any family member during the wedding or reception. Keep your cool, relax, put a smile on your face and be happy to serve. "I never go off at my client," says Christina Holt, founder of Wedding Concepts, South Africa. "It's important to stay calm and focus on the job. Getting angry will only ruin your countenance, make you snap for stupid things and be unprofessional. It could ruin your relationship with the client forever."

5.) You need to have the desire to make people happy

Organizing a wedding is never an easy job and managing people is even harder but every wedding planner needs to be super patient with an objective to just make people - both the couple and guests - happy throughout the event. "I have always loved to make people happy and that’s one attribute to my success," Seyi explained. "If you can make people around you happy, your organization becomes easier because other will love to give you a hand."

6.) You have to be a team player

There are no "I can do it all" rule to being a great wedding planner. Every planner needs a team to work with. These are people you trust. They are people you know have the expertise to handle certain things you can't handle. No one is an island, as planner, you need to know how and when to ask for help. There's nothing wrong in having extra hands on a job.

7.) Perfect time manager

To be a great wedding planner, you need to be the best time manager. Being an organized person is one thing vital but you also need to be great at knowing how to be prompt while being efficient and under pressure.

 

 

"How do I get rid of pimples?"

At some point in life most people usually experience one or a combination of breakouts, pimples, blemish or acne. It’s painful, sometimes itchy and surely hard to cover with makeup! Worst of all it leaves that dreaded blackhead when it finally goes down. Ok let’s put the facts in place before we discuss the solution.

What are the causes?

In very simple terms, it happens when your pores (tiny holes in your skin) gets blocked. Some people like to blame it on the following factors;

-Stress

- Change of environment

- Allergic reaction to a particular product

- Diet

- Hormonal changes

We like to blame it on a buildup of bacteria as a result of some simple things we do or forget to do.

What am I doing wrong?

1. Popping your pimples: the only time you need to touch your face is during your skin care routine or applying makeup (with clean fingers) any other time is compounding the problems as the bacteria will spread and make it worse.
2. Using facial cleansing Brushes: they are great to use especially to help open up your pores, however if you have pimples your skin is inflamed, any vigorous scrubbing will irritate the inflammation and won’t make it any better.
3. Using too many products at a time: it takes the skin about 4weeks to rejuvenate. Be patient with your skincare. Using too many products that do the same thing makes it difficult for you to know which one actually works for your skin type.
4. Using harsh creams: products that promise to whiten or lighten your skin will probably do so initially but in the long run, damage your skin in more ways than you can imagine.

How can I make it better?

1. Be gentle with your face, at this time try not to scrub your face till the inflammation settles. In the meantime make sure you are consistent with your routine; cleanse and moisturize your skin twice a day
2. Always take off your makeup with makeup removers or simple wipes before you begin your routine. Washing your face alone is not enough because your skin absorbs whatever you on it; so it is very important to ensure that all the dirt is completely taken off.
3. Cleansing is a very important process in your routine as it takes off any excess makeup or dirt that may be left and opens up your pores for your moisturizer.
4. There is no such thing as over moisturizing. Your skin needs moisture to stay hydrated and glow. You need to replace the lost moisture from the cleansing and washing. Always remember to choose moisturizers according to your skin type.
5. The skin on your face is more sensitive than the rest of your body and deserves special care. Try using a different towel especially for your face other than your bath towel.
6. Bacteria easily spreads and so it is important to change/wash your pillow covers very often to avoid a buildup of dirt and bacteria which could be spread to your face.
7. Check your diet, you may want to stay off sugar and groundnut oil for good. Try choosing healthier options like honey, extra virgin olive oil or canola oils for your cooking

What products should I be using?

Whatever product you decide to choose; whether its store bought or homemade always have the following in mind:

1. What works for someone else may not necessarily work for you. The key is choosing a product that works for your skin type.
2. If your skin is oily and more prone to blemish or acne, always look out for oil free ingredients rather than those that are for “all skin types”.
3. When choosing makeup always look for products that are “non-comedogenic” which means they won’t clog your pores.
4. The importance of drinking at least 8 glasses of water a day cannot be overemphasized. Its keeps your skin hydrated and gives you a natural glow.
5. Never leave the house without sunscreen. You need to protect your skin form the harsh rays of the sun; which usually causes sun burns, uneven skin tone, and dullness amongst other things.
6. Eating lots of fruits and vegetables go a long way in improving the quality of your skin. Ok guys, so we have touched on a little bit of hygiene which will be the starting point for getting rid of these horrid skin concerns. Next week, we look at some ingredients that you probably have in your kitchen cupboards that are amazing for your skin. Till then... remember: flawless makeup starts with a healthy skin!

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Wellness Tips: 5 tips to stay healthy no matter how busy your day gets

Even of you a busy professional with little or no time to exercise or stay in shape, these tips work perfectly to help you stay healthy.
Staying healthy requires constant attention to one's overall state, from eating the right type of food, exercising and more but then work gets in the way of staying in shape making it an unfruitful effort?
Professionals/busy executives are busy at every time of the day as all their time count making it difficult to squeeze in other things including dedicating time to exercise, visits to the gym and more

If you don't have the luxury of time- understandably so- there are five ways to still stay healthy from day to day, check these handy tips:

1. Never skip breakfast

Breakfast should be eaten like a king as this fuels the body for the most productive and better part of the day.
Breakfast jump starts the body to take on the day. Studies reveal skipping breakfast can increase obesity and diabetes risks and cause morning moodiness.
2. Hydrate
Drink at least eight glasses of water everyday. Water works to keep the body hydrated as well as flush out toxins.

3. Don't work and eat at the same time

Dedicate a time to eat and that alone. Don't try to eat and work at the same time but take a few minutes during the day to eat, breathe deep and generally relax because it refreshes the entire body.
4. Reduce alcohol intake
Alcohol does more harm than good to the body (the organs) as well as the skin. If you must take alcohol reduce it to the barest minimum to stay healthy.
5. Eat quality food always: Surviving on fast foods/ cheap alternatives will eventually wreak havoc on the body. Eat quality food, avoid quantity over quality when it comes to the food to feed on especially at work

Personal relationships: 5 things you shouldn't worry about anymore

To live life to the fullest, your primary focus should be on wellness, on getting better and continuing to learn how to cope with any situation

To live life to the fullest, your primary focus should be on wellness, on getting better and continuing to learn how to cope with any situation, how to find joy and gratitude in your life, in the people who surround you.

Here are 5 things  people should stop worrying about:

1. My Love Life: Perhaps it seems a little silly to have this on the list. After all, I have a lot going on right now. Deciding whether or not to swipe right or left should perhaps be the last thing on my mind. But, my headache experience has been incredibly isolating at times, and this loneliness does get to me. I crave connection and contact in the midst of all of this. Beyond that, I don't feel particularly good about myself, my health and appearance. My lack of energy and forced inactivity has taken it's toll on my confidence and I worry about what this means for my ability to eventually find someone. My life is a lot for anyone to commit to take on right now. Maybe it's too much even to ask someone to consider. I worry that I am going to lose out on my chance to be in love in that singular, most intimate way. As I watch my friends get married and have babies, I worry that this is just not something in the cards for me. And, I want it. I want it all. I want to love and share my life with someone. But I also need to get well and be comfortable with my situation, who I am and what I am going through. I need this for me and I need this to be a partner to someone else. So, instead of worrying about a future of cats and bachelorhood, I will focus on being my best self and loving who and what I already have to the best of my ability. And, I will trust that the rest of it will come.
2. Keeping Up With My Peers: It's difficult not to feel a little insecure about my life right now. I am not financially stable. I do not have the independence I long for, that so many people my age are finally enjoying now that the economy has begun to shift and jobs are becoming available. It's hard not to look at others' success and worry about my own missteps. But I cannot measure my own success against that of my peers. I have to honor the setbacks. My health has undoubtedly taken a toll on what I thought I would have accomplished by now. But it's more than that. I have shifted the focus of my life, my career, numerous times, and am only just settling into what I really want to do. I can't worry about how all of this stacks up against everyone else. I have to measure my triumphs in a way that does not minimize them, but instead celebrates what I have been able to do. Just me. Life is not a competition and I am not running a race. I need to focus on being who I want to be and not let the rest of it matter so very much.
3. What Other People Think of My Situation: I wish it didn't matter how other people view me and my situation, but it does. I want people to understand and respect what I am going through. There are a few reasons for this. First, I worry that people don't believe me, or at least don't really appreciate how difficult things are for me on a daily basis. I worry that people think I am a life failure, that I've just gotten lazy or I don't try hard enough to overcome the obstacles my chronic pain sets forth. I guess I just worry that people are disappointed in me. Sometimes, I worry it's the people I love the most who might feel this way. This fear can be incapacitating. On the other hand, I want people to understand what I am going through because I crave the validation. I want people to pat me on the back and say "you are strong" or "you are brave" because sometimes I don't feel like either of those things and it's nice to hear someone say it. Sometimes I worry if they don't say it, they don't believe it, and it's not true. But I can't worry about any of that. It's not anybody else's responsibility to validate my situation. I know what I experience, I live it every day, and as much as I want others to understand it, they aren't me. I also can't forget that it's a lot to ask, for people to live in my struggle with me. As much as it takes out of me, it takes out of them too. I can't worry that people don't know exactly what I'm going through, when they show me every day that they love me and support me. That is enough.
4. The Life I Thought I Would Have: I just turned 27. I thought I would have more books published, or at least be a bit farther along in the publishing process by now. I thought I'd have gotten a substantial start on my next big project. I thought my career would be well under way. And, in some ways, it is. I have an agent, I am settling into new projects, both fiction and non-fiction, and I am working to build my own business and portfolio, put my sills to use and get paid for it. But none of this is happening at the pace I want. And, I worry that it's not enough, that I haven't gotten far enough, that the goals I have set myself are out of reach. This is unfair. I am working hard, and I have accomplished things. Yes, sometimes I have to take naps, and sometimes I go for days at a time where I can't work, where I can't even look at a computer screen, but that doesn't mean that I have given up. I push forward every day. I find ways to make it all work. I have to stop worrying about where I thought I'd be, and see the progress in where I've gotten.
5. The Future: It's impossible not to worry about the future. You don't have to have a chronic illness to know this is the case. And, there is some value in thinking about where you'd like to be in a few years. It's how we set goals, challenge ourselves, make changes for the better. The danger comes in obsessing about a future where you just can't imagine liking what you see. That's my problem. My search for answers, a cause and treatment for my headaches, has placed great emphasis on what things will look like after I get better. Like this is just a phase and I will somehow outgrow it. And, while I think this optimism is important to the healing process, chronic pain doesn't always work that way. There might not be a cure, a fix-all. It might be a constant, continuous journey. And I can't worry about what that means. I can't worry about the fact that my headache might not ever go away completely. I can't worry about what that means for the rest of my life. I have to focus on the here and now, what I'm doing today, and every day, to not just get by but to fill my life with joy and gratitude. And more than anything, I have to let that be enough for me

Personal development: Talking to yourself actually means you are smart...here's why

If you have a presentation or interview, talking to yourself helps you practice and fine tune what you're going to say

Talking to oneself is mostly associated with schizophrenia, a mental illness but recent scientific study says it can also be a very positive and healthy behavior.

In an article from Elite Daily, the author, Gigi Engle, discusses about how talking to yourself is a sign of genius. She says, "The smartest people on earth talk to themselves. Look at the inner monologues of the greatest thinkers. Look at poetry! Look at history!"

Christine Schoenwald of YourTango lists some some scientific benefits of talking to yourself:

1. It improves performance and brain function. When you talk to yourself, it helps you to stay on task, keep focused, and improves your perception capabilities. In a study conducted by psychologists Gary Lupyan from University of Wisconsin-Madison and Daniel Swingley  from University of Pennsylvania, they found that using verbal clues helped when searching for lost objects.
2. It boost memory retention. When you talk out loud, it stimulates more sensory channels than when you subvocalize. You actually hear the sounds and you engage your emotions.
3. It helps you prepare and ultimately kill it at important meetings. If you have a presentation or interview, talking to yourself helps you practice and fine tune what you're going to say. If you practice something out loud enough, it will go smoother when you have to do it for real. Proper preparation helps to get rid of stress and anxiety, and you won't trip up over your words.
4. It motivates you. Especially if you use "you" instead of "I." Self-talk has been found to be even more effective if you use second person. Saying, "You can do it" works better than saying, "I can do it." Dr. Sanda Dolcos, a researcher at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign says, "Self-advice expressed using 'You' probably enables people to adopt a broader perspective."
5. It helps your self-esteem. When you compliment and encourage yourself, you get a confidence boost. Talk to yourself like you'd talk to your best friend. Talking to yourself isn't just something that children do; it's an important tool for adults as well. So go ahead and talk to the most important person in your life: you

2,303 prospective corps members begin orientation course in FCT

No fewer than 2,303 graduates from various tertiary institutions within and outside the country, on Wednesday, commenced orientation course for the mandatory one year national youth service in the Federal Capital Territory (FCT). Mr Omotayo Adewoye, the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), FCT Coordinator, said this after the Director-General of the scheme, Brig.-Gen. Sule Kazaure, inspected facilities at the Permanent Orientation Camp in Kubwa, Abuja.

Adewoye said that the figure may likely increase to 2,500 before the end of the three weeks orientation exercise as the scheme was expecting more prospective corps members to register and partake in the service year. The coordinator, who lauded the computerised system of registering corps members, said the system had so far enabled the scheme eliminate fake corps members and individuals who send others to serve on their behalf. “The computerised system of registration is faster, less stressful and highly result oriented. “Most of the registration process has already been done by the corps members what they only need to do now in camp is for us to authenticate their registration. “We have all the details we need in our system so when they present their biometric capture and finger print the details of their registration shows allowing us to confirm. “Anyone who is not the owner of the finger print used during registration is sent out. “This has enabled us to fish out fake corps members that is those who have not graduated and want to fraudulently come into the scheme or those who register but send other people to come and serve on their behalf,” Adewoye said. He said that the hostels, toilets and bathrooms were ready and 24-hour water supply made available to ensure that corps members were comfortable during the orientation course.
 Adewoye said that although the orientation camp had been disconnected from the power supply, the Federal Capital Territory Administration (FCTA) had promised to address the problem within a week.                                                                                                                                                                According to the coordinator, the corps had created another alternative source of power which is the generator and since corps members came in we have made power supply available to them. He urged the incoming corps members to obey the rules and regulations of the NYSC in order to ensure a successful service year. Adewoye said that the scheme would ensure it played the parental role it was mandated to play for the next one year, but urged corps members to be obedient and participate in all activities. He said “this is meant to groom and train them as leaders of tomorrow’’. Besides, he enjoined the corps members to join the NYSC Skill Acquisition and Entrepreneurship Development Programme (SAED), which was aimed to arming them with necessary skills needed to be self-employed. “They can receive this skill training and in turn train others around them especially the less privileged who cannot go to school or have the avenue to receive any skill training,” the coordinator said. Miss Kwila Sonita, one of the newly registered corps members, lauded the registration process, saying it is organised, stress free and less tedious. Sonita, a graduate of Federal University of Technology (FUT), Minna, Niger state, said that the registration was done in accordance with corps members geopolitical zones which made the process better organised. She said that she hoped to impact positively on the lives of others during the service year. “I have a creative mind and I want to showcase that creativity during the service year. I am an entrepreneur; I am into liquid soap production and I wish to take this product everywhere to be used by everyone,” Sonita said. Another newly registered corps member, Mr Olusegun Akerele, who was also a graduate of FUT, Minna, said the registration and clearance process for corps members was not a stressful one. Akerele said that during the service year he hoped to gather the required knowledge which would help him be independent in the future. However, he urged the management of the scheme to improve on service delivery to corps members to make their one year mandatory national service fruitful. 
        The director-general of the scheme urged corps members to be disciplined, hardworking and law abiding during the service year. The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that Kazaure inspected the hostels, bakery, table water factory and the water treatment plant at the camp. He also inspected the ongoing registration process of prospective corps members. Corps members duly registered will serve under the 2016 Batch ‘A’ stream one. (NAN)

For couples only: 11 words you should never use during an argument

Using the wrong words during an argument with your partner could put an end to your relationship

Using the wrong words during an argument with your partner could put an end to your relationship

Arguments between couples is normal as long as they are kept short and healthy. Letting anger escalate could could do more harm than good for you and your relationship. Using the wrong words during an argument with your partner could put an end to your relationship.

You can never take back harsh words said to your partner in the heat of an argument, but you can always caution yourself so you don't make such mistakes

Compiled by Women's Daily Mag, here are some words that should never be uttered in an argument:

1. You are such...an idiot, a moron, a mama’s boy: Actually, we’re talking about any offensive word there is. Your argument will be childish and immature if you use these kind of words. Don’t you ever forget that words have the power to hurt. Restrain yourself of using offensive words and talk to him by his name. Keep your dignity and good manners, even in a love war.
2. Why can't you be more like...Ana’s boyfriend? Your brother?: Comparing you partner with someone else may look like a good method for motivating him but these kind of comparison can make your argument even worse. So, lock those thoughts in your head. Just so you get it better, you think – Ana has lost some weight.If she can do it, I can do it, but if your partner says to you – Why can’t you lose some weight as Ana did?- you might find this offensive.
3. I want to break up: You may think that by saying this you”ll give a more serious tone to your argument and you will show that you can’t be taken for granted, but you might be facing with an agreement from your partner. If you really want to put an end of your relationship, wait for a calmer moment.
4. I hate you: If you let your argument escalate to this, the damage might be irreversible. This is one of those statements that you’ll wish to go back in time and stop yourself from saying this. Although said during a heated argument, these words can stick between you for a long time. So the rule is simple, NEVER say I hate you during an argument.
5. I'm not angry: You refuse to communicate and instead of having a healthy discussion, you turn your head to the side and claim that you’re not angry. Men know the meaning of “fine” so why expect that he’ll believe in you lie? Sit with him and tell him why you are angry, you’ll feel much better. If you weren’t angry, there wouldn’t’ be an argument in the first place.
6. I told you so: Oh, those sweet words that confirm your female intuition. They seem so powerful for you and so devastating for your partner. Telling him I told you so is like pouring gas in a fire. What good will come from your ego if the result is a horrible argument and not speaking for days?
7. You weren't like this before: People change and that’s normal. Change is a part of growing up and maturing physically and mentally. If your partner has changed a lot, there is a place and time and a different approach to talk about that. Bringing up this during your argument will take away the attention from the real issue and point out to an issue that doesn’t have anything to do with the argument.
8. It's all your fault: It takes two to tango and it takes two to argue. Even though you know that it’s his fault, you should point it out that much during your argument. Ask yourself this – What are you doing with this man who does everything wrong? Sure you don’ mean it, so don’t bring it up in an argument.
9. You're just like your mother/father: You must NEVER talk about his parents  during your argument. You’re offending your partner and his parents at the same time and that can be pretty painful. Anyway, who wants to hear bad words about his parents? We already said that comparing is bad, but comparing using his parents is the worst and that doesn’t lead to anything good.
10. My friends warned me: All men have nightmares from the intimate girl talks. They are aware that your friend’s opinion is very important, but sometimes that opinion can manage your relationship. You can’t tell your partner your friend’s opinion during the argument. It’s already enough that you two are having an argument, why drag your friends in it?
11. We're not doing that tonight: The holy Grail of women’s threats. There isn’t a more degrading statement during an argument. While making your partner feel bad, you restrain yourself from pleasure too. Making love after an argument is the best thing ever!

Bridal tips: 7 smart ways to help reduce wedding costs for your bridesmaids and friends

It would be a smart move to step back and see how you can minimise costs for your bridesmaids and friends who would be part of the team organising your wedding

From the dresses, to travel, transportation, gifts and favors, your wedding can really take a tow on your bridesmaids in terms of cost. Especially when they don't have much to throw around.

It would be a smart move to step back and see how you can minimise costs for your bridesmaids and friends who would be part of the team organising your wedding.

In the end, they would be grateful to you for your thoughtfulness and strengthen your bond of friendship.
Laura Marie Meyers of PopSugar lists a few ways brides can help save costs for their friends and bridesmaids:

1.      Pick a Color, Not a Dress: The bridesmaid dress can be a major expense, and it's tough to pick one option that fits everyone's financial expectations. A solution: choose a color — a general "purple" — or multiple shades, as on a paint swatch, then let each pal find a dress that suits both her style and her budget. If you're worried that the range of hues won't work together, ask each friend to send you photos before they buy.

2.      Make the Bachelorette Party an Intimate Affair: When your bridesmaids ask for your guest list requests, you may be tempted to invite anyone and everyone to your bachelorette party — but remember that more people means more favors, more decorations, more knickknacks. The bigger the party, the greater the expenses, so be considerate of your bridesmaids' budgets and opt for a smaller, more intimate group of friends.

3.      Be Open Toward Shoe Options: Rather than selecting a specific brand and design, choose a general type of shoe — a nude wedge, for instance — or, again, a color. This gives the girls a bit more control as to how much they spend, and they may even own a pair that matches your request.

4.      Choose Accessories as Your Gift: Steer clear of saying that every girl must wear a certain type of jewelry. Instead, choose a simple piece as the gift for your bridesmaids: a bracelet, a necklace, or a simple pair of earrings. Not only will they appreciate the gesture, but the jewelry will also serve as a fun reminder of your big day.

5.      Choose a Budget-Friendly Bachelorette Party Location: To keep costs as low as possible, skip the jet-setting and stick to a nearby location. Choose a fun spot in your city or a nearby destination (road trip!) so that your friends aren't forced to pay for airfare on top of everything else. If you do opt for a place that requires flying, be sure to make plans early so that the girls can find the lowest possible pricing.                                                                                                                                   

6.      Keep It Short and Sweet: Sure, you want to make the party last as long as possible, but an extra long weekend can lead to extra high costs. Make it a one-night affair, or if you do choose to stay somewhere for several nights, plan to have just one "all-out" night and a couple more casual, low-key evenings. Try an at-home barbecue, a nostalgic sleepover, or your own DIY version of a wine tasting to keep the festivities budget-friendly.                                                                                                 

7.      Request Time, Not Gifts: If you're trying to give the girls' wallets a break, reach out and suggest that they skip the gifts. Instead, coordinate a craft day where the group can get together to help you with some DIY wedding details: stuffing invitations, putting together decorations, filling favor bags, etc. Let your bridesmaids know that their time and support is more valuable than anything else — and that by helping with the little things, they will make your big day all the more special (and stress-free). It's a win-win situation: they save money and you get a bit of extra help!

Linda Ikeji allegedly reports Wizkid to Police

 TheNetNg,  reports that singer who threatened to send his underage cousin to beat up the blogger could spend up to seven years in jail if found guilty.

News reaching us today, April 15, 2016 has it that Linda Ikeji has filed a petition to the Lagos Police, alleging a threat to her life.

  TheNetNg,  reports that Wizkid who threatened to send his underage cousin to beat up the blogger could spend up to seven years in jail if found guilty.

According to Multiple sources say Linda Ikeji got the Police to invite Wizkid for a chat but he failed to show up.

Section 323 of the criminal code states that ‘Any person who, knowing the contents thereof directly or indirectly causes any person to receive any writing threatening to kill any person is guilty of a felony, and is liable to imprisonment for 7 years."

The drama started the day before when Linda Ikeji posted a story about Wizkid being served with a quit notice at his Lekki Phase 1 residence.

Wizkid who is a rebellious pop star grabbed his phone the next day and blasted Linda Ikeji in the comment section of her latest picture. The ‘Ojuelegba’ singer went hard on her and even said something unsavoury about her lady parts and this is not the first time Wizkid is facing the possibility of arrest and prosecution for alleged assault.